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A political apology … of sorts.

Since the election, I’ve been thinking a lot about social media.  What used to be a place for connecting and sharing silly, uplifting things has become a pulpit of sorts for many of us, myself included. And that’s probably lost us followers and friends at times.

As an author building my brand, I know I shouldn’t post some of the things I do, even though I keep it on my personal page. And I’ve certainly gone against much of my family in my posts, although that is probably par for the course at this point in my life. Posting my opinion and fears made me feel better, despite possible ramifications.

Here’s why. A lot of writers (or anyone in a creative field) are highly emotional people. We live on a rollercoaster of ups and downs, and that’s sometimes DOUBLED because if we’re doing it right, we’re suffering through our character’s woes as well. My mind never stops, and it’s full of about 900 different threads. Some are work related, many are family: my parents; issues between myself and others that have me baffled and hurt; Grace’s daily stuff. At any given time, there’s a conversation going on in my head. It might be something I want to say to a family member but never can, or maybe how I’ll deal with the attorney for my parents tomorrow, or even how to help Grace work through an issue. My point is, it’s all fueled by emotion. And often fear of the unknown is right on its heels. So add in something as volatile as politics and the future of our country, and things become a powder keg.

We see so many terrible things going on, and we read way too much on FB, and we just keep absorbing and absorbing, and then we’ve got to speak.

I probably spoke too much. To all of the family members and friends I offended: I never meant to target you in anger. I never meant to say you personally are racist, anti-semitic, anti-everything but straight, white male. When I wrote those posts, I wrote them with a vary specific subset of Trump supporters in mind, but I probably generalized the posts too much. I’m sad for the divide it’s probably caused with some family members, although the gap was already very established. I’m sad for anyone I made feel badly or targeted by my posts because that’s just another form of hate and fear that so many of us are afraid of for the next four years.

I do stand by the things I said. Putting them on Facebook isn’t the answer, however, because all it does is incite arguments and push-back. Clearly, no Facebook or Twitter status ever swayed a vote. But when you run on emotion like I do, and your life is so full of personal and business responsibilities, you feel like social media is the only way you can make a difference and get your voice heard. And how can we stay silent when we see terrible things happening, and we have so much fear for our future?

Social media isn’t the answer. It’s full of targeted hate and threats. Trying to make any point on whatever platform you choose is probably going to be ignored at best.

So what can I do?  I can donate to the various groups who are willing and able to protect civil rights and the environment. I can keep my eyes open in my community for hate crimes or threats, and I can educate my child that we must be tolerant of others’ opinions even if we don’t agree, but intolerant of bigotry and cruelty. I can teach her that skin color and religious preference don’t matter, and that we stand up to bullying in any form. I can set the best example I can for her and encourage her to do the same for her peers. I can tell her that even though times are scary, we are all going to be okay.

Because I have to believe that’s true.

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7 comments on… “A political apology … of sorts.”

  1. I relate to this post so much, Stacy. It’s difficult as a writer to walk that line between business/life–and no matter how we try, of course the personal breaks through on social media.

    The other thing is we are used to expressing ourselves in the written word, and with all the shenanigans going on, that’s our outlet. People only want to be heard. On both sides.

    I’m sorry this election cycle has been so rough on you–on all of us. I’m also afraid of the future. But I’m hopeful, too, that all of this negativity has been exposed to the light, and maybe, just maybe, we can move through and beyond by acknowledging these problems and working toward finding a solution.

    <3 Hang tough, lovey.

    • Thank you! I still see so many things I want to post about and call people out on, but I’m working hard not to. People aren’t going to listen anyway. They see what they want to see. And you’re so right about it being an outlet.

      I’m happy to hear you’re hopeful, and I’m going to work to be as well. I’m hoping the strong voices against all the bad things will take actions and act as safeguards, and that somehow we will come out stronger in 4 years.

      You too! I miss our talks. 🙂


  2. Jo Ann Reinhold


    I too am very passionate about things and I feel them deeply. Over the years, I have gotten myself in a lot of trouble by expressing my feelings. Only because they come out very emotional. It’s not something I can control very well. Never apologize for how you feel Stacy, you have your right just like everybody else does.

    • Thank you! I have to be careful because I don’t want to alienate readers, but sometimes it’s just impossible to keep my mouth shut. I’m definitely a work in progress. 🙂

  3. It has been oh-so-tempting to post things on my personal profile during this time. The possibility of reaching just one other person, providing a POV not considered…but as you say, that’s not why people hang out on Facebook, Twitter, etc. I know what you mean about the hyper-sensitivity of writers, Stacy, and I’m so sorry you’ve had to wrestle that beast. While the entire election cycle has been difficult, the past week has been particularly emotional for many of us. Glad to see that you are resolved to fight the good fight and soldier on. Hugs. <3

    • Thank you! It makes such a difference to know I’m not the only one feeling this way. I’m just trying to stick to my word as more and more news I don’t agree with gets posted.

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