Comments on: Grieving the living

By: Stacy

Stacy — Sat, 15 Oct 2016 02:51:48 +0000

Tina,
Thank you so much for your kind message. I can’t tell you how much it means to read it. And I am so sorry about your son. There are no words to adequately describe that loss. I’ve watched my mother lose two, and it’s just unfathomable. Thank you again for your message and blessings!

By: Tina Tierson

Tina Tierson — Sat, 15 Oct 2016 00:37:24 +0000

Stacy, I’ve just “discovered” you through your books, and just now this blog. I’m so sorry for the pain you’re going through with your mom. I’m just two years younger than she and thankfully am in pretty good shape. But as a mom, I just want you to know that everything you’ve done and are doing in your life, including going to conferences, is making your mom so happy and satisfied. she’s so very proud of you now and will continue to be even as she continues the on the journey we must all make. Just be the you she knows and loves and the mother of the little girl I know your mom must be thrilled to have in both your lives. I’m sorry your mom didn’t take as good care of herself as she may have, but we all do the best we can at any given time. Also, at this age, at least going by myself and my friends of similar age, death isn’t as scary as it is to younger people. Relationships don’t end when death occurs. I know this because I my precious older son was killed 26 years ago in Desert Storm. I used to think I lost him, but no, he’s still my son, still in my life and always will be. Just love your mom as much as you do, create as many precious moments as you can and notice every one of them. This is hard stuff, but is something that comes to each of us. I’m sending you, your mom, and all your family the blessings of love and memories.

By: V Jones

V Jones — Sun, 09 Oct 2016 15:47:35 +0000

After losing my mother 10 years ago, I can finally say that eventually the pain does get easier to bear. I too was close with my mother and her death was the most painful experience I have ever had to face. But, Stacy, when it happens, you get through it one minute at a time, then one hour, one day, one week, etc. Hold onto those precious memories even if they make you cry. Explain to your daughter that it is okay to cry and that it is okay to take about your mother and share memories together even if you both end up crying! Keep her memory alive for your daughter! Beware of you and/or daughter’s feelings and seek help for you and/or her with a good therapist if the grief becomes overwhelming.

By: Stacy

Stacy — Mon, 03 Oct 2016 01:29:09 +0000

In reply to Lori Hunt. Thank you so much for your comment! I'm sorry to hear about your mom's health. It helps just to know other people understand what we're going through. Good luck!

By: Lori Hunt

Lori Hunt — Sun, 02 Oct 2016 19:56:37 +0000

Sorry to hear! I have been on the health roller coaster with my Mom a couple of times. It never gets any easier. I know what ever happens, she’ll always be with me. Take care of yourself- that’s the best thing you can ever do.